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Well I find I agree with all aspects and yet also feel using the word survivor is that you are taking control and power back, facing all of the aftermath of being raped and not letting it or how anyone or anything sees and the stigma of being a or called a victim, is the choice to keep surviving to be yourself and that includes the changes to who we are after and the ways the aftermath affects us. That we are not just going to crawl under a rock or completely forget, or saying we will ever be the same , because we won't ever be the same, that we are not letting this control everything in our lives, not just take it and yes it is horrible what happened,but I am not giving up I am still alive and even though it killed part of who I was, I am still here , still going to do everything I can to be me and accept me and the changes and love myself and I will not let someone else keep me in the victim mindset. Yes the aftermath affects us for the rest of our lives and many things that still would fall under still being victimized over and over however being a survivor is despite all of theses things we keep going and keep getting up when knocked down even if it takes a bit to get back on our feet we do. As for comparison to murder or saying it doesn't killyou to be raped, well really it does kill parts and pieces of the person, and some rapes are also a life being threatened to be killed , or they might try to band not succeed in killing the person. There is also some that are tortured, beaten,starved and raped for years and no one can say that they are not either a victim and a survivor of that situation, because they are both really. Perhaps many would rather be seen as a survivor than a victim because of the stigma associated with the word and definition of the word victim by society, friends , and family members and in general with it . It bothers me as much as those that had it happen to them and turn around and do it to someone else and when caught play the victim card as a reason why they did this, no it is an excuse to make it more ok and justify their own choices and actions,. They had choices and they know right from wrong, and how horrible it was to go through this, so why do it to someone else, it to me is as bad as them saying I was drunk or on drugs, well we are still liable and responsible for our actions and choices as well as the consequences of them. I faced death and many things in my personal situation as well as cancer at 9 an a half and suicide attempts and self harm and drug use and many other things , I am a survivor of all of it and was a fighter through it all but untill I really realized what and how I survived all of it and that I decided I wasn't going to let it keep me down , to continue to rule every thing in me and my life , what I had really came through even though I'd have all of the aftermath of all of it I could and would keep going, fighting and surviving, that I am both victim and survivor did anything change or start to or get any better . That there sadly are so many others I can understand and support, encourage,help them did I even slightly start to feel alive at all again. Just because one chooses to be or call themselves a survivor does not mean they aren't still broken or won't breakdown dealing with the aftermath. Just means they will rise back up as soon as they can.